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UNEDITD Presents
TOP PERSPECTIVES
EDITION 17 · WEEK OF OCTOBER 19, 2026
MADDY VISWANATH · CRAFT YOUR CONFIDENCE
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I want you to fail.
We learn more from failing than from winning. So this week I am going to tell you about mine.
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Failure one
The layoff script I wrote
Tuesday, 12 April 2024. I drove the boys to school, made coffee, and watched a calendar invite refresh from one title to another.
Then somebody read me the layoff script. I had written it. I knew the pause three lines out. I knew the beat he would slide the packet on, because I had written that instruction. Eight years earlier I had revised the manager training so that the employee releases the manager. It ran exactly as written, on me.
I answered with the same three words I had heard hundreds of people say.
The knowing did not exempt me. The expertise did not exempt me. Not me, who built the slides. Nobody is past the room.
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Failure two
The runway
I stumbled on a runway once. A full stumble, in front of everyone. I got up, I finished the walk, and I smiled at the photographers as if it had been choreographed. Backstage, the designer kissed me on both cheeks and said that was exactly why I had been asked.
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It was never confidence. It was willingness to fail.
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Failure three
The wrong table
When I started coaching, I had no idea who I was for. I went after entry-level people at a low price. It was the wrong table. I tore that first version of the business apart and started again with senior leaders.
It cost me time, and the honesty of saying so instead of pretending the positioning was obvious. Clarity is not the starting condition of anything. It is the residue of shipping the wrong version a few times.
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Failure four
A hundred and twenty thousand for his, five thousand for mine
Fifteen years ago my family took a hundred and twenty thousand dollar loan for my husband’s EMBA. We paid it off and never thought about it again.
Then it was five thousand dollars for my own coaching, and I questioned myself. Ten years of a career, lost to sulking.
The household funded a credential without blinking. The person who could not be funded was the one holding the pen.
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Failure five
The Saturday I thought I had lost everything
This one is recent. Saturday, 16 May 2026. I believed I had lost my money, my dignity and my friends, and that two years of work had come to nothing. I tried to outwork the feeling for hours. It did not move.
Thirty minutes on the phone with family who love me brought the wall down.
The same week, my writing had reached sixty-one thousand people, two senior leaders had my work in hand, and a platform had said yes. Despair is loud and it talks over the truth.
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Your turn
Why I ask you for yours
When I ask a senior leader to tell me about themselves, almost every one of them starts with a win. The scale. The promotions. The number they grew. All of it true. And when they finish, I know almost nothing about them.
So I stop them. I say, “not first one is success story. I want you to write a failure.”
When fear is in the way, I ask which one. You fear shame, you fear guilt, or you fear a failure.
As I tell my clients, “Anything you start with, always a failure. What did you learn? How did that make you better on the next time?”
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This week
The move this week
Take twenty minutes. Write down three failures from your career, one line each. Under each one, write what you did next, not what you felt. Circle the one where the outcome was strongest, and tell it out loud in under ninety seconds, ending on what it produced.
The next time someone asks you to tell them about yourself, start there.
What is the failure you have never told as a story?
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Tool of the week · The LinkedIn Profile Audit
Your failure story only works if the page behind it tells the same story.
The free LinkedIn Profile Audit reads your page the way a talent review reads it and hands back the version of you that arrives ahead of you.
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See you Thursday.
Maddy
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P.S. Hit reply and tell me the failure you have never told as a story.
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